Know From Emotions, Really Love From Notice through Gian Kumar ISBN

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Through saturday day, while you wolf morning meal, shed the children in school and also battle some of the visitors operate, maybe you have idea, "If only i possibly could be at liberty!" or more, "If only i possibly could produce times of comfort!" In this case, this is actually the reserve for every person. You may be thinking the solution take a look at like, "consider everything such as and do not such as, create listings, after that exercise methods of enlarge avoiding consumers correspondingly. Very another, Gian shows that the very first thought you are doing is actually DON'T EVEN THINK. Rather must quietly discover, observing the feelings and thoughts, and also the community about you. Ultimately, Gian states, we are going to get intuitions from your unaware that will help aim you within the movement must truly choose. Gian refers to this as entire process "understanding", however, many may have heard information technology because religionist term "heedfulness" (archangel Carrithers. The buddha: a rather brief intro: Oxford hit, c1996, mo. 50-52). As indicated by Gian the problem along with convinced is the fact that the values use and also we all reside in a quickly increasing people being. Additionally the and also are translated through you when it comes to exactly what the mom and dad, educators, spiritual management, governmental management, and others. trained you. They ideologies tend to be them version of these human beings pasts. Gian is simply not just recommending there is a problem along with convinced, nevertheless tip is the fact that you try to be really up to date prior to we feel.

This particular reserve might be named modern age, however it is more precisely referred to as east approach. Gian exhibits a fascinating mix of religionist and also religionist idea. Some of the religionist idea mostly originates from Some of the Bhagwat Bhagavad-Gita (Ch. 13). Gleam sprinkle in Religious and also Muslim tips. Gian is an accomplished free-thinker, self-taught, and also, even as we produce suggested, among their prime tips will be hinder staying caught in every definitely one base even as we rather quickly restrict the look at what exactly is "nowadays."

One coin of reserve handles a short a review of (one) the healthiness of guy, and also, (two), the answer in understanding. Another coin focuses on the mostly religionist look at understanding (Ch. four), choicelessness (Ch. 10) understanding (Ch. six), and also dichotomy and also non-duality (Ch. 7). The last and also next school term focus on religionist tips of downright (Ch. eight), manufacturing and also devastation (Ch. nine), improvisation and also the nowadays (Ch. ten), susceptibility instead of emotionalism (Ch. eleven) understanding as part of useful residing (Ch. twelve), logicality (Ch. thirteen), and also no (Ch. 14). The world breeze introduction to program can simply touch during the detail of reserve that performances a great deal learn.

Your reader who is competent inside area of real information can find Know from cardio, really love from notice a tiny bit frequent; unfortunately, this particular exact same top quality definitely will really assist individuals fresh to the minds. Advertise in fact have various very difficult principles that should be considered and conducted. As part of part two "awareness," that exposes "downright reality," is actually referred to as staying either "immutable" and also "continued moving": definitely one specific description connote one thing fixed, and also the some other one thing increasing. In the event that audience maintains supposed, unfortunately, every one of the are revealed later on ever invented. The thought of "choicelessness" (Ch. 10) is actually more of a mysterious, particularly when confronted with the issue in bad in other people. Exactly what must you choose? Again read on and also maintain convinced.

If you are especially considering approach generally, a few will understand as part of Gian's operate the sameness aided by the Existentialist's look at 'regular' being since unmerited, broker, worthless, and also nauseous (example. Sartre. Sickness: Sphenisciform Seabird, 1965). A lot more especially you will find a mentioned sameness aided by the philosophical doctrine Jaspers' look at downright world since tremendously complicated, past every one of the techniques of real information, but none of them some of the reduced somehow cognizable throughout mysterious encounter (approach In life: Pennsylvania hit, c1971 & cause And also Existenz: noon hit, c1955). Additionally Gian's look at creativeness welling increase from unaware is really like some of the philosophical doctrine consultant Rolf Can (Some of the daring to develop: diminutive courses, c1975).

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HAPPILY EVER AFTER by Sis Tasneem [Story Time]


Everyone loves a good love story. But there's no better than the relationships of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW). Let us fall in love all over again with the beautiful stories of romance, companionship, trust, and love told by Sister Tasneem.

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." [Qur'an 30:21]

Boys and girls, single and married, happy and unhappy, and everyone else, lets fall in love again with the Prophet SAW.

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As usual, lets all chip in and bring a plate or two to share on this wonderful gathering. Those who eat together, grows together. We look forward to meeting our old friends and making new ones.

We'll all be sure to be mindful so not to bring anything unhealthy ya, and lets try not to waste anything either :)

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Date: 24 February 2013
Time: 2pm - 4pm
Venue: 34 Jalan 11/10, Petaling Jaya
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Happy Valentine’s Day



I want to talk about love. I want to talk about the cliché love, the boy and girl love. I know there are other kinds of love out there, such as the love for our Creator and Master, love to our prophet Muhammad (saw), our parents, sisters etc. But today I want to talk about boy meets girl.

For some of you who think that romance cease to exist for people who are married, oh boy oh boy have I got a bubble to burst for you. I’ve met so many uncle and aunties telling me that once you get married, life gets really tough and all your fantasies and bubbles are burst. And although I never experienced that, because I thought they are older and maybe wiser, I thought they might be right. Hmmm… It’s been nearly 6 years since I’ve been married and for now, I cannot disagree more.

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.”
(30:21)

For those of you who think that it’s fine to be in love with a guy before marriage and have a boyfriend girlfriend thingy going on… oh honey, you sure ain’t getting the best deal in life. I can safely say that girlfriend and boyfriend is anything but ‘finding rest’. One time you’re so into the guy/ girl, the next you’re fighting. The platform of girlfriend and boyfriend is so uncertain. You love each other but you don’t really commit to ‘trying’ to be with each other forever. It is anything but rest. Even when you decide to do the haram and give each other hugs, kisses or hang on the phone just the two of you, you’ve barely touched the surface of ‘finding rest’. All you got is excitement in the spur of the moment and an intense feeling of being into somebody. I’m not saying you can’t love somebody unless you’re married to them. It might be possible to love someone without marriage, but definitely the combination of ‘rest, love and compassion’ is hard to attain unless you are married. You get my drift?

And is ‘rest, love and compassion’ a guarantee to those who do get to marry? I’m going to be honest and declare a big NO. Capital N and capital O. But hang on a minute, isn't making a relationship halal with Allah enough. Errr… no dude! Why is this so?

Have you seen couples that lie to each other? Have you seen people who are in denial of what honesty means? Have you seen people who are so into prayers, hijab, fiqh issues and are completely clueless when it comes to ethics and character? I’m not saying these things (prayers, hijab, fiqh issues) are not important, yes they are. But a guarantee to rest, love and compassion lies in your relationship with Allah swt. And this relationship is built with sincerity of trying to improve oneself though Qur’an and Sunnah. Quran and Sunnah are not to be used cheaply as a means to be in an argument or to prove that you know better. If you are within this group please just get over it and know that people can see right through you. Allah’s guidance (Qur’an and Sunnah) is a means to get closer to Allah, which is a guarantee of success in this life and the Akhirah.

This book is without a doubt, a guide to those who guard themselves
(2:2)

And what about those who marry someone who does have good character? I fall under this group. I married someone who is way not perfect, but he does have good character, all praises is due to Allah. If a guy works and provide for his family, is romantic to his wife, is generous to his family and in-laws, has humor and all, what better deal would there be right? So is this a guarantee for ‘rest, love and compassion’ in marriage? Nearly there, but still a NO and why? Because baby this is dunia. Get ready to face challenges, one after another.

“And We will most certainly try you with somewhat of fear and hunger and loss of property and lives and fruits; and give good news to the patient.”
(2:155)

In a marriage, apart from the in-laws, you’ve got pregnancy, labor and the baby blues. Then you have the challenges of bringing children up. You think after labor you get to rest, errr no! You’ve just begun. And men don’t get any sleep either. Parents of infants are what I call walking zombies. Hahhaha… Then you have financial difficulties especially in the beginning of the marriage where the guy is just starting to build his career. Or the guy might expect you to work or you yourselves choose to work. And then comes the question of housework. I mean what’s up with the toilet seat not being able to be put down?! On top of that you have to adapt to each other’s preferences, perspectives on things and boy I can go on and on and on. But I am sure you know what I mean.

So even with the best of character, you've got so many factors that are going to pull you from so many corners[1] that its so easy to just put your hands up and say, “I give up.”

Loving a man or woman, has to first and foremost come from knowing that marriage is yet another form of getting closer to Allah. If we use the formula given by Allah swt, i.e. to use marriage as a way to please Allah, then yes, you will find ‘rest, love and compassion’ as the by product of that intention and actions. And yes I learnt this the hard way. I thought having a spouse with good character is enough, but I slowly learnt that I have to let go of my ignorant days of thinking good character is enough. Although I personally think it is easier than having a spouse who is ‘religious’ but is completely clueless on how to treat other people, it still is certainly NOT enough.

Slowly but surely Allah continue to guide us to ‘rest, love and compassion’. And yes romance is way better when a man is willing to take the decision to say, “I do”. Should you compromise if he or she is not willing to say, “I do”? Personally I say no. And because I hold on to this sunnah.

While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power."[2]

If you cannot afford marriage, or you the guy or girl won’t commit to ‘trying’ to be there for each other forever, I say dish it and start fasting J. As Imam Al-Ghazali says in his book Revival of the Religious Sciences, chapter 32 on patience and gratitude: If you don’t have something be patient. And if you already have what you want, be grateful for ungrateful can fall into disbelieve. 

Allah tests us in different ways and in no way should we think that just because we have something, it is because we are better, or we know better. Everything comes from Allah and only He gives and knows what is good for u. I’m just another sister looking to share her experience. So with much love, I bid you peace for yet another one of my attempts to reach out to my fellow Muslim brothers and sisters.



[1] This does not even include those that suffer from psychological and physical abuse, cheating on a spouse in relationships.
[2] Narrated by 'Alqama in Sahih Bukhari Volume 3, Book 31, Number 129.

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Sumayyah is currently exploring faith and fashion in Scotland, while awaiting to launch her own life of fashion wear in 2013. She writes on www.love-to-dress.com/